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Re-Habilitation

11/13/2014

 
Was I “habilitated” as a child? Did my parents, teachers, and coaches equip me with the right information to survive the wide world before it swallowed me whole? The adult I am wants to say yes. Much of what I think and do is supported by some basic principles I learned as a child and adolescent – however hard headed I may have been.

The lessons were pretty straightforward: try your hardest, don’t quit unless there is a legitimate reason, show people consideration, there is no “better than” when it comes to measuring your faults against another’s because nobody is perfect, don’t let naysayers discourage you, stay away from those who drag you into the mud with them; be responsible, not the same as holding yourself accountable for your actions, but still a valuable lesson. The first speaks to taking action and leading the way when a leader is necessary, whereas the second means owning up to your failures. Be yourself, pursue your dreams, work hard, make opportunities available to yourself, be independent, respect other people, respect yourself, and understand that God and the church are separate entities that don’t always agree with one another.

In one fashion or another these values were instilled in me, but I allowed the ideas of instant gratification and absolute freedom to erase these crucial lessons from my core line of thought. It took the loss of my freedom, family, friends and future to rediscover the lessons of my childhood. Is this rehabilitation? Yes, but it also took the removal of other forms of corruption – drugs and alcohol and mental illness – to begin to rehabilitate. Who can say I’m completely healed or that anyone is? It takes time to learn how to cope with loss and get over the wounds of the past so they cannot continue to defeat you. Rehab is more than relearning what’s been forgotten – it’s understanding why the lessons were important to begin with.

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    In the time he has been incarcerated, Lyle May has earned an Associates in Arts degree with a social science emphasis through Ohio University; paralegal certification through the Center for Legal Studies; and is currently working on his bachelor’s degree. He has published two articles in The Wing, an international newsletter for death penalty opponents, and is hard at work writing a second memoir detailing his experiences on death row. When he is not writing Lyle enjoys sci-fi and fantasy novels, calisthenics, and dreams of freedom.

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